TOPIC: Announcing something + big change

Morgan wrote:
Correct me if i am wrong but are you saying i have a mentall illness?

Edit: i have read up on what you said and i see that it is considered a "mental-illness", i do however not like people telling me i have a mental illness because of this, it is rather impolite and to a certain extend harrasment/bullying, i do not acknowledge this as any kind of illness but onlya case of being born in the wrong body.

But this still doesn't clarify why you think it is unhealthy, i have found nothing on the wiki which shows nothing about problems with health or this being unhealty, i request you clarify why you think it is unhealthy, if you must you can add me on steam

steamcommunity.com/id/Sophiachan/

DeathRazor213 wrote:


Morgan wrote:

I completely agree with Morgan on this one, I am not trying to be edgy nor rude, and it is your life not mine.
Now you mentioned "sex change", this is where things start to get a little hazy in terms of healthiness.
I will go ahead and try to showcase some data in my post, to make a claim against having "sex reassignment surgery(SRS)".
All of the data I am going to mention from here onward are studies conducted by various organisations and institutes some clinical studies others observational studies.

Suicide and suicidal behaviour among transgender people after a "SRS" has been performed on them is astonishingly high, upward of 40% and over 50% have also claimed to have attempted suicide at least once.
If we take in to account the people who were too afraid to even admit to doing such a sad thing as suicide we are left with nothing, but a very sad case of numbers.
In addition to that, the high suicide rate has little to none to do with discrimination.
Even after Jim Crow laws were enacted, that forced something as severe and racist as "racial segregation" the black suicide rate did not even breach to the same levels of people with gender dysphoria.
Trust me when I say, that what black people faced during Jim Crow laws is much worse then the discrimination towards transgender people and it was not just words that the laws prevented it was much more then that.

Numerous studies also suggest that the overall quality of life after having a "SRS" done does not improve the case of gender dysphoria and in some cases even lowers the quality of life, not to mention all the trouble that comes with it once the realization hits of what you have done.
If you are going to also undergo hormone therapy, that will come with another set of problems that is too long to list.
In the midst of writing this I have noticed there is just too much to simply state, please I beg of you to read upon this, this is a permanent decision that is irreversible.
One of the most troubling statistics that I mentioned was the suicide rate, think of this rationally and logically, okay?
Do you think you are the only person who thought that they are going to be well and fine after the "SRS" or even hormone therapy, probably not, most people think that "I will be fine, I am not going to be one in that number" but as I mentioned turns out close to 40% have.
Since there were so many studies and trials I read through, it would simply take up too much space, so I decided to place them all in a pastebin.

I wish to hammer home the first point I made, this is not to be rude nor edgy, this is my way of trying to help you more with the question you were having which was "What am I?"
I wish you all the luck buddy, if you have any questions on this subject I am quite well versed in it just add me on steam I have also linked that below.

SOURCES AND LINKS: pastebin.com/vEfJA34d steamcommunity.com/id/schrodingers/

Very proud of you for doing this! It must have been hard to say!

Fluffy and Morgan actually know what they are talking about and sorry "Sophie" but if you think that someone expressing their opinion on your lifestyle choice is rude and extends to harassment/bullying then you need to re-evaluate what those words mean since lifestyles can and will always be commented on by other people and his evaluation that it is not healthy for you to do what you are doing is also true.

This does not mean to say I now hate you or don't support your decision like I said before it is brave of you whether you actually mean it or are just doing it for attention and by all means have a sex change its not going to affect me at all. I do however think that all the hyper-sensitivity surrounding the posts on this thread is definitely not necessary, of course the posts which blatantly say "kill yourself" or "you are disgusting" should be removed but some people made posts which weren't along those lines but still got removed since you were "offended".

I think you really need to toughen up if you want to live a life like that since when people come up to you in public and say much worse than what has been said here you won't have someone to just make it go away.

Like I said though my only issue here is the hyper-sensitivity and restriction of expression of opinion and to be honest if you disagree with Fluffy or Morgan I think you should argue that on Teamspeak or Steam rather than on this thread.

i'm not really sure how to reply right now,

I do acknowledge you guys's opinions if you think it is unhealthy, but i am doing what makes me happy and i do not think it is unhealthy, i see the valid points regarding suicide, this is nothing new for me as i have tried to end it before.

i do not care what others think, if they think i am making the wrong choice let them think, it is my choice and not theirs, it's my life and i control what i do in it their opinions and points are taken into consideration but will not change who i am and who i wish to be.

i am not good with wording my feelings and what i am thinking, if you think something i said doesn't make sense please try to make the best of it as it does make sense in my head, thank you for reading

~Sophia~

DeathRazor213 wrote: I will try to make this post as short as possible, for convenience sake.
I understand what you meant perfectly, not everyone can put their feelings into words flawlessly, you don't have to care what others think either.
And I am truly happy that you acknowledge some of the points I or someone else brought up.
But like I said in my previous long form post, everyone thinks they will happy or happier, but the sad truth is they almost never are.
I want to keep to my promise of wanting to keep this short so I will leave you with simple sentence that I came up with.
Don't sacrifice long term misery for short term happiness or clarity in your mind.
Also I have a suggestion for the future, instead of jumping straight to "SRS" or "HRT", just try cross dressing or use make up, anything really, to make yourself pass as a female and see the results, do you feel happier?

FluffyOP wrote:
i have had friends treat me like a female for a while, after i told my dad and he treated me like a girl for a while it did make me feel alot happier and more at home, so to answer that, yes, it does make me feel happier, it makes me feel like i am myself

I see, well I don't know what else to say, I can't really be your therapist to delve into your thoughts and see if this would be the best decision for you, neither am I academically qualified for that.
Still, I would advise you to read up on this more and maybe even visit a therapist, they help in certain cases if you find the right one for you.
If you are going to, look for someone who specializes in this field, they will know much better then your average PsyD or Therapist.
I wish you all the luck buddy and I hope you make the right decision for yourself.

DeathRazor213 wrote: I partially agree with Fluffy here about the short term long term happiness thing. Lots of people turn suicidal or develop some sort of problem because of sex changes
But then again this is a Coming Out post not a post where we should be posting things that could potentially make Deathrazor feel shitty about this. Let her do her own thing i know this community id widely opinion based but i dont think it's needed to make her feel like she's mentally ill or unhealthy because shes different. I might not believe in the transgender thing but i dont think this is right of you guys.

FluffyOP wrote:
thank you

AyyLookItzGmad wrote: So a couple things on this, firstly what you think forums are used for?
Opinions, discussions, talking, etc...
What I voiced was one of the above, if you make a public post on a forum, you better expect someone to reply, it does not matter what the person intended the thread to be.
Neither was my post in any way inflammatory, I rarely post something constructive, most of my posts are filled with memery, hate speech and just plain old shit.
I will give you an analogy and tell me if you think this is comparable situation.
I make a thread and I say "I hate blacks", can I just tell everyone to shut up and respect my opinion, that this is just an announcement, however far from it is from reality, now I get the analogy is quite an extreme one at that, but I hope you understand what I mean.

TheXnator wrote: why whats wrong with it

FluffyOP wrote: I do understand and completely agree and notice all the downsides to a sex change. I just dont think its right thats all.

Why are mods camping new posts and deleting them, our freedom of speech is not accepted here?
Are you expecting to get love and attention only?
This is not the real world bud, what if somebody has a diferrent opinion than you irl, are you gonna silence them?

Marcooo wrote:
Maybe act less like a fucking ass and maybe they won't get removed.
We have always had issues with your piss poor attitude. Make one of those posts again and you gonna sit out a day time out.
Last warning

TheXnator wrote: I hate Xnator, sorry for racism.

ParaMontana wrote: Ok my poor attitude is not ok, but why did you delete my other post which had a valid opinion?

TheXnator wrote:
i dont like racing games man whats ur point