TOPIC: Mini-Ethics: When is Ghosting Not Okay?

I've had this question sort of rolling around my friends, and I've got varied answers.
I'm gonna pose this as a theoretical, with two sides to it:

You're in a good friendship, but all of a sudden, one day, the person just stops speaking to you specifically. You don't know what you did, or why they could've stopped speaking to you.

The two sides are in this question:

Is it better to never know what you did and have to live with that knowledge that you'll never know why a good friend stopped talking, OR would you prefer to have the knowledge of what you did, even if you feel like a total dick afterwards, or if it's something about your personality that makes you considerably more self-conscious?


The reason this question stands out to me is because, and I imagine you've probably guessed already, I've had things happen like this before. As someone who sometimes struggles with social dynamics, but is utterly fascinated by them, I find it intriguing looking at different people's perspectives. I like the saying "You're not owed closure," because it's true. No person, no matter what they did to you, owes you closure. Because at the end of the day, sometimes getting the answer you want, won't give you the answer you need... to give a very dime store mantra.

You can also reverse the theoretical. Would you ghost a friend and give up on the friendship without telling them why, or would you do it to a prospective new love interest?

It is better to know than not know. The worst that could happen is finding out why or where things went wrong and whether it can be fixed or not.

I believe humans by design are creatures of pleasure so any experience that has a potential negative outcome we shy away from. However, these are the encounters that help us grow or help us see where things went wrong.

My personal opinion, only a circumstance where you are part of a toxic relationship and after prior interventions without success, would it be suitable to remove yourself from a situation for your own personal wellbeing.

A “good friendship” would be based on mutual respect as well as an open channel for communication. Any meaningful relationship will require the willingness of both parties in order to make it work. I also cannot see a situation where someone would ghost on a meaningful relationship. I’ve only really seen it used by people who didn’t have any significant attachment to the relationship in the first place.

Granted not every circumstance in life allows for closure, but in the event that you can find it, it could be worth your while.

Very good question indeed and here my personal opinion regarding it...

If you have someone whom you consider a good friend but all of sudden he changed and started being rude with you and giving you a negative energy and when he asks you why you stopped talking to him then in my eyes since you consider him a good friend who used to be good: tell him about why you stopped talking to him, if he's a man enough to admit his mistakes and apologize to you then give him another chance. If he doesn't admit his mistakes then instantly leave and forget about him. In case he admitted his mistakes and apologize but later he started making mistakes again then instantly leave and never give him a second chance because no one needs people who gives negative impact in their lives.

For toxic relationships you instantly leaves and never ever tell the person of his mistakes nor give him any chance, even if they raged at you for leaving them acting like they did nothing wrong, because such people doesn't deserve to know their mistakes and since you never told him about his mistakes then he will most likely if not 100% do the same things he did to you to other people and he will get in trouble and people will again leave this toxic person.

Depends on the scenario, if they are able to talk about the reasoning to other people then usually they are in the wrong, if they don’t then it’s usually something more personal. It’s not happened with any of my close friends, but if it did I feel like I would ask them why.

Why do I always get ghosted

Your not owed closure correct but only cunts would leave you in the dark self questioning or even ghost in the first place instead of explaining "hey you did/didn't do this bye bye". I think its important for toxic or damaging people to have a reality check as some of them have no clue they are doing wrong so a wake up call could save many other people from their negative actions.

Depends on the server. Ghosting on TTT is a crime!

ghosting is for dickheads

Ghosting is only okay if it's against someone who doesn't deserve your respect.

For example,

user12345 in my instagram dms: hey girl you're so hot, you wanna see my dick
answer me
why aren't you answering
fucking whore

The key is to never talk, boom you never get ghosted

MsRevine wrote:
Didn't block them after they said "wanna see my dick"

the more ghosting the more busting makes me feel good