I think the reason why he said "Do you want to be abused" is because a lot of your recent punishments show abuse from other staff members (eg. STEAM_0:1:35116246 punished by mycherrycrush (STEAM_0:0:28356585). Slayed on 26/08/2017 - 02:52:51 for (explode) Reason: NO)

However, it is still an odd thing to say. As for the RDA, if you don't have proof that Jaffa did in fact holster his gun right before you arrested him then whichever SA+ handles this will have to trust the staff member's word that you did in fact RDA, making the ban pretty reasonable.